The title of this post is the my theme for the year and one of my FAVORITE Prince songs! It always made me happy to hear it, usually followed by dancing around and making some people a little uncomfortable. I was HAPPILY dancing and singing like no one watching or caring.
Being happy is not always easy for everyone. It involves knowing and being true to yourself. I spent most of my life doing what I thought other people expected me to do. I didn’t want to rock the boat. I didn’t want anyone to be upset with me. I wanted to be and have friends.
See, I’m an only child. My parents divorced when I was young. My MoM was great, and I did everything she asked me to do. I always wanted to be the perfect child: independent, smart and caring. In all of that, I forgot to be myself. So after 40-something years of living, I’m being me. It’s not always popular or right or wrong, but it will be me.
So from where does Happy come? It comes from within!
Wednesday, February 8, 2018, I attended my first Paparazzi Regional event called EmpowerMe Pink in Phildelphia, PA. There was a lot going on in Philly that day: there was a MASSIVE parade for the Eagles who won Super Bowl LII. People were everywhere. The city shut down 5 miles of streets and people were required to take public transportation just to get into the city. There were no cars, trucks or SUVs on the street of Phildelphia that day! Just hundreds of thousands of people celebrating a long awaited victory for a team that they never gave up on.
The Eagles were not the only champions in town that day. Thousands of Paparazzi Independent Consultants traveled to Philly by car, bus, train and plane to hear from the champions, like Trent Kirby, Chani and Ryan Reeves,who started our company and share with each other stories of success and hope! For me, it was AMAZING. I was reminded of the power of hope, the importance of consistency and the hard work of discipline. Most of all, the meeting confirmed my goals, my heart’s desire, is waiting for me to attain it. Nothing and no one is holding me back but me. That stops now!
Everything I am, all that I have, all that I’ve accomplished, all that my children accomplish is by the Grace of God. I was reminded of a commencement address that Denzel Washington gave at an HBCU recently. I went back and listened to it this morning (following one of the tips that Trent taught us to start each day listening to motivational videos). Now I’m sharing it with you.
Be blessed and make today GREAT!!
This post is all about me. I’m going to share more of myself during this journey than I am accustomed to doing. But you can’t do new things, if you’re not willing to do new things.
I have struggled with my weight for a long time. After getting married, cooking every night for my husband [and of course, waiting for him to get home after 9:00 pm – that’s when we ate home-cooked meals five (5) nights per week], having two beautiful girls and being what my husband calls his “Super Woman” I gained a few pounds.
After gaining weight the first time, we bought me some new clothes with the thought that I’ll lose weight but don’t want to look crazy in the mean time. Well, I never really lost any consistent weight because no matter what I tried, I kept eating. This is me now! 40 pounds overweight, unhealthy, and sometimes unhappy – but still smiling! My office boo even says that my legs need a tan which means I don’t show them that often – LOL!!!
Now, I’ve finally found something that is easy to do and I like. Not only that, people that I know – that I see, feel, touch – are losing weight immediately and feeling great! So I figured I’d try it. Blog it and see what happens. It can’t be worse than anything that I’ve tried previously!
It’s a pouch of pink powder (like Crystal Light) that I pour in my water bottle once a day – the “Pink” drink. That’s it! It’s that simple. It helps curb my enormous appetite; I have more energy; and most of all I like the taste.
I’ll be adding exercising and clean, healthy eating to the mix. But one step at a time. For now, I drink Pink and juice! Yes, I also bought the NutriBullet and I LOVE IT!! I put everything in that juicer but that’s another story for another day.
For today, think PINK and drink!
So I awoke at 2:00 am that morning because our youngest still was not feeling well. I don’t sleep well when my babies are sick. Since I’m up, I check my phone (of course) and I have 6 text messages. Turns out 5 are from the same person with foolishness. Unfortunately, it’s foolishness that I have let linger much too long. I have a sick child, so it will have to wait another day or so. I don’t have time for her drama today! Anyway, I had baby duty yesterday, so hubby and nephew agree to step in today if needed but her temp was normal by 5:30 am. So I’m out the door. I’m late at 5:45 am, but I’m still ready for my meetings today which don’t start until 10:00 am.
When did we become a society that stopped treating people like people, with dignity? Was all that necessary at 6:00 am? At any time? Absolutely Not! Just like my text messages, sometimes situations call for people to talk with one another with respect, not envy, not malice, not passive-aggressive behavior. R-E-S-P-E-C-T as Miss Aretha taught us!
People are so caught up in their own lives and issues that they forget that other people have a perspective also. Having recently experienced others taking my kindness for granted, I decided to look at my own behavior. What am I doing that others believe that I am vulnerable in this area? Recognizing that I’m not perfect, there are things that I plan to change. Much like my driver this morning, I refuse to allow others to take my kindness for granted. Sometimes you just have to allow them to vent, then walk away!
The driver just walked away from this unreasonable woman. She allowed her to vent her frustrations then proceeded to continue doing her job. That was an admirable response. In many instances, people do not recognize just how inconsiderate and thoughtless they are being. They see the world from their own perspective giving little to no brainpower to the other person’s perspective.
Personally, those type of people are toxic, poisonous and have no place in my life. I’ve decided to pursue friendships with people of like values and mores. I will continue to be kind and considerate to others but I choose not to have them in my life. We are born into family but choose our friends. It’s time to make the best choices!